One of the most stressful activities in our lives is worry. Worrying accomplishes very little that is constructive in your life, yet humans do it constantly.

Part of the reason we worry is that it gives us the illusion that we are in control.

Worrying connotes a need to control and a lack of self-trust. Your need to worry will significantly diminish when you decide to be responsible for your life alone, concentrate on living in the present and know that you will either be able to handle whatever comes up in your life or you will know how to get the help you need.

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There’s a lot of debate and theories about what it is (stress) and what it does to us. We all have an idea of what stress is because we all experience it from time to time (some persons more often than they would like to experience it).

Hans Selye one of the fathers of stress research teached us that stress is not necessarily something bad, that it’s part of the natural experience of living and that even the animals have stress. And Selye stated that the biochemical effects of stress would be experienced whether the situation that originated was a positive or a negative one.

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What we commonly refer to as “stress” begins with perception: we see, foresee, or experience danger or significant change in our situation, which the brain interprets as danger.

Our bodies immediately go into the fight/flight mode: adrenalin floods through us, our eyes become alert and active, hearing sharpens, our heart rate increases, blood pressure goes up, and the digestive system closes. We focus on the danger to such a point that other things go unnoticed.

In most cases there is no fight that would resolve the situation and flight is impossible since there is no fleeing from financial problems, illness, bad news, tense workplace situations, grief or relationship problems.

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It’s holiday time again and I wonder if you have started heaping on the expectations of it to be picture perfect? This year it began the day after Halloween. Away went the costumes, the pumpkins and the Halloween candy and out came the candy canes, Christmas trees and the things needed for a wonderful Hanukkah.

Stores began pumping out the holiday carols and shoppers began to get a glazed look in their eyes. The lists come out and the murmuring about having too much to do began. Thanksgiving has barely come and gone and already expectations are running high to create another “perfect” holiday season. The perfect present, the perfect décor and the perfect holiday spread.

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Almost every day coaching clients or friends tell me they’re juggling so many things in their lives right now that they can hardly keep up with them all.

No one ever tells me they’re “balancing” so many things in their lives that they find it hard to keep up.

That’s because there’s a big difference between “balancing” and “juggling.”

A couple of definitions in the American Heritage Dictionary for the word balance are: “mental steadiness or emotional stability; and - habit of calm behavior, judgment, etc.”

The same dictionary defines the word juggling as “having difficulty holding; balancing insecurely.”

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It is not surprising that man has always been seeking out stress relief products. Stress has been with man since the dawn of time Stress was even with early man as he hunted and gathered food for himself and his family. Indeed a certain amount of stress is normal and is to be expected. Stress is most evident when someone is in danger and senses the need to flee from a particular situation for self defense.

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The world has become very competitive and all of us are striving day and night to achieve our goals in our personal lives as well as our professional lives. We have to remember that if we are not able to keep pace with the world’s progress we will soon be left far behind. Hence receiving training and support from a life coach can prove to be extremely beneficial for us as we learn to get what we want with the least time and effort without making and repeating any mistakes.

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Stress can be good for you or it can be bad for you. There are both positive and negative stressors in life. Good or positive stressors can be things like going on vacation, putting on a party, a close baseball game, meeting a deadline, getting married, a job interview or winning a lottery. All of the former can cause stress, but usually you get feelings of increased energy and excitement. Good stress can pump you up and help get your creative juices going. Some stress is healthy and necessary.

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Through the years I’ve seen versions of Household Rules printed on posters, mugs and the like. You may know it, here are some of the words:

· If you get it out, put it up.

· If you sleep on it, make it up.

· If you wear it, hang it up.

· If you drop it, pick it up.

· If you dirty it, wash it.

· If you open it, close it.

· If you turn it on, turn it off.

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Life can be pretty tough. Imagine having to work all day and when you come home, you still have to do so many chores. To top it all, your kids (if they are like mine) would probably have at least two fights about the smallest stuff like who gets to watch tv first or who gets to use the red crayon or who really won their bingo game.

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